Three Picks for Couples Starting Out
If you're both new to this and a little embarrassed, don't start with the big set. Start with one thing you can actually talk about.
Three starter picks for two people, with the awkward part handled up front: what to say, what to buy first, and when a bundle is genuinely worth it instead of just bigger.
The Short Answer
Buy one thing, not three. The Couples Intimacy set is the pick if you already know you want both a prostate massager and a clitoral stimulator, because it puts KUBEE, CONDICE, and a water-based lubricant in one box with one charging routine. If that sounds like a lot, start with CONDICE alone: 7 licking patterns, quiet, and small enough that nobody feels intimidated. If the interest is mostly on his side, start with KUBEE and its remote.
The Conversation Part, Which Is the Hard Part
Picture this: it's 10 p.m., you're both tired, and one of you has a box under the bed you haven't mentioned. That's the moment most starter purchases go wrong, not the purchase itself.
The least awkward framing we've found is to talk about it somewhere neutral, say over breakfast on a Sunday, and to make it about curiosity rather than a gap in the relationship. You're not fixing anything. You're adding an option.
Then agree on a rule before you open the box: either of you can say stop, and it doesn't become a thing you discuss afterward. That single agreement removes most of the pressure.
Why One Thing Beats Three
Three devices on a first outing means three chargers, three cleaning routines, and one partner waiting while the other reads instructions. Late at night, that's a lot of logistics.
One device means you learn how it actually feels before you decide what's missing. The second purchase is always better informed than the first, and it's usually a different shape rather than a stronger version of the same one.
The exception is a set that's designed around two people, where each piece has a clear owner. That's a different situation from one person buying three things.
The Three Picks
- Couples Intimacy set: KUBEE, a prostate massager with 9 modes and a remote, plus CONDICE with 7 patterns, plus a water-based lubricant. One box, two owners, one charging drawer.
- KUBEE: about 4.1 inches insertable, 1 inch at the widest point, 9 modes, IPX7, roughly 60 minutes per charge, and a remote that hands control to the other person.
- CONDICE: a moving tip rather than pulses, 7 patterns, around 1.2 inches across, about 50 minutes per charge, and quiet enough that it doesn't dominate the room.
If you only buy one, buy based on who's more curious right now. You can even it out later, and you'll know what to even it out with.
Practical Things That Decide Whether It Gets Used
Charge it before the night you plan to use it. A toy at 15 percent turns the whole thing into a waiting game, and the mood doesn't survive that.
Keep water-based lubricant within arm's reach. Silicone toys don't pair with silicone formulas, and the bottle that lives in the bathroom cabinet is the one that gets used.
Wash it together the first time, then decide who owns cleaning. It sounds domestic, but the couples who keep using these tend to be the ones who treated it like any other household item within about two weeks.
The Drawbacks Nobody Lists
The honest downside of buying together is that one person usually likes it more. That's normal, and it doesn't mean the purchase failed. Whoever's less keen shouldn't have to perform enthusiasm at 11 p.m.
Another limitation: remotes sound better than they play out. KUBEE's remote only works within a few feet, and a lot of couples hand it over once and then never again.
Worth knowing too: the first two tries are usually awkward. By the third, the novelty settles and the thing starts being useful. Give it three before you judge it.
Who Should Skip This
Skip the bundle if you haven't talked yet. A three-piece box arriving before the conversation tends to feel like pressure rather than an invitation.
Skip KUBEE if prostate stimulation isn't something he's curious about, since a remote doesn't create interest that isn't there. And skip both of you buying something simultaneously if one of you is doing it out of obligation; start with the interested person's pick instead.
A Reasonable First Purchase for Two
One box if you're both curious, one piece if only one of you is.
- Couples Intimacy Bundle: a three-piece set pairing KUBEE, a prostate massager with 9 modes and a remote, with CONDICE, a licking stimulator with 7 patterns, plus a water-based lubricant. Built for two people who each get one piece and share a charger.
- KUBEE: roughly 4.1 inches insertable and 1 inch wide, 9 modes, IPX7, about 60 minutes per charge, and a remote so control can sit with either partner.
- CONDICE: 7 licking patterns on a tip about 1.2 inches across, around 50 minutes per charge. Small, quiet, and easy to hand to someone else.
- Browse the Customer Favorites collection together and point at what looks interesting, which is easier than describing it.
- Related reading: three starter picks for two, and three picks for a first apartment.
- how to choose your second toy
Sources
- Cleveland Clinic — patient information on sexual health and communication
- Planned Parenthood — general education on consent and comfort
- Mayo Clinic — information on lubrication and tissue comfort
This content is general education and not medical advice. Every couple moves at a different pace, and there's no correct order.
